Life Keys: 10/1 – Creating Your Life Vision
Posted by Lauren - 09/30/09 at 02:09:40 pm
Having a clear picture of your ideal life is the first step to achieving it. Tune in to this inspiring episode as Lauren teaches you how to create a life vision statement that will keep you motivated, and help you stay focused on where you want to go.
Tune in to Life Keys on Thursday @ 1pm (EST)
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Call us toll-free in the US and Canada by dialing 866-254-1579. International callers can dial the country code then 760-918-4300.
Lauren’s article on Fear in The Huffington Post
Posted by Lauren - 09/25/09 at 12:09:22 pmManage Fear So It Doesn’t Manage You
Fear is one of the biggest barriers to living a joyful and fulfilling life. If you’re living life from a place of fear, you’re not free to take risks or pursue your dreams. If your energy is expended in avoiding failure or rejection, then that energy is used to stay safe, instead of being available to create the life you envision.
Through evolution, we’re hard-wired to respond to fear with intensity. For our evolutionary precursors, the fight-or-flight response was a valuable survival mechanism. It’s not as useful when triggered by modern-day fears. In addition to affecting the autonomic nervous system, the hormone cortisol is released in higher quantities than normal. Cortisol helps the system react and normalize once the threat has passed. However, chronic stress and elevated cortisol levels have adverse effects, including impaired cognitive performance, suppressed thyroid function, blood-sugar imbalances, higher blood pressure, and increased abdominal fat. It can also compromise your immune system …
Click here to read the entire article.
Solemate Review & Giveaway on BlissTree.com
Posted by Lauren - 09/25/09 at 12:09:42 pmI wanted to share this wonderful review of Solemate by Cherie Burbach. She is also giving away a free copy of Solemate. Click the link below to enter the contest!
September 24, 2009 by Cherie Burbach
As a dating writer, I know all too well that woman try and find one special person in their life, a soul mate, so they will finally feel “complete.” The problem is, when a woman isn’t complete in herself, she can’t ever really be happy with anyone. A woman that doesn’t understand this will not only have troubles in romantic relationships, but also in other types of relationships as well.
For any woman that has felt a little empty (regardless if its dating related or simply in everyday life), I encourage you to read this wonderful book by Lauren Mackler called Solemate. I was riveted because it is not only beautifully written but gives excellent advice as well. The subtitle of this book “Master the Art of Aloneness & Transform Your Life” may make you believe that the book encourages women to be alone all the time. But what the book really does is makes women become so comfortable in their own skin that they attractive the very best types of relationships to them.
Click here to win a copy of Solemate!
The last day to win is Tuesday, September 29th.
The Three Keys to Success
Posted by Lauren - 09/24/09 at 12:09:39 pm
Many people fail to achieve their goals because they never learned the skills that produce success. No one ever taught them how to set clear goals, create effective action plans, or sustain their motivation.
Whether you want to become a better leader, create a more fulfilling career, or bring greater balance into your life, there are three keys to achieving any type of goal: focus, strategy, and commitment.
Focus. A teacher of mine once said, “Where you focus is where you go.” Without a clear picture of what you want, you’re at the mercy of whatever life brings your way—and you might not like what you’re getting. To find your focus, ask yourself, “What would I do, be, or experience if I knew I would not fail?” Notice the things you feel passionate about or that you wish you could change. Finding your focus doesn’t have to involve taking a major leap over your comfort zone. It might be shorter-term goals like eating fresh vegetables everyday, or bigger goals that require a longer time span, such as completing a graduate degree or starting your own business.
Strategy. Your strategy is the road map for bringing your goals to fruition. It involves identifying the steps needed to accomplish your goal, and the resources that can help you achieve it. Ask yourself, “What are the steps I need to take to achieve this goal?” Be careful not to overwhelm yourself by taking on too much at once. Start with three to six action steps for each goal. Once your initial action steps are completed, identify the next three to six action steps, continuing this process until your goal is achieved. It’s also good to set a clear timeline for each action step and put them into your daily or weekly calendar.
Commitment. Being committed to your goals means honoring your agreements to yourself. To be committed, you have to feel deserving of what you want to achieve, and you have to love yourself. After all, you’re not going to feel compelled to invest your time and energy in someone you don’t like very much. This is why so many people lose their motivation to follow through on their goals. Instead of extending patience and compassion toward themselves, they berate and judge themselves—further eroding their sense of worthiness. If you have a hard time keeping your commitments to yourself due to low self-esteem, developing a more loving relationship with yourself is a great first goal on which to focus.
These three keys are important tools for “living deliberately”—aligning your thoughts and actions with the results you want to have. As you start living more deliberately, recognize that you’ll slip into old, self-defeating patterns from time to time. Being committed doesn’t mean doing this process perfectly or following through on your action steps 100 percent of the time. It means acknowledging when you do slip up, being compassionate with yourself when you do, then gently moving yourself back on-course.
Lauren’s keynote presentation, Live Boldly: Unleashing Your Potential in Life, Work, & Relationships uncovers the hidden drivers that keep people stuck in unsatisfying careers, relationships, and life circumstances. This is one of several events designed to help people live a life that’s aligned with who they are, and the life vision to which they aspire. Click here for more information on my workshops.
© 2009 Lauren Mackler all rights reserved
This article also appeared on The Huffington Post.
Health Week Presentation at East West Living in NYC: 10/14/09
Posted by Lauren - 09/24/09 at 09:09:11 amI’ll be giving a presentation on Building A Strong Inner Support System during the Health Week at East West Living in New York City.
October 14th @12:30pm – 1:30pm (*Note: new time)
East West Living
78 Fifth Avenue @ 14th Street
New York, New York 10011
212-243-5994
Click here for more information, and look for the Health Week Event.
Solemate: FREE Hay House Online Seminar – 10/15/09
Posted by Lauren - 09/24/09 at 08:09:08 am
Join me LIVE on Thursday, October 15th for this FREE Online Seminar!
Solemate:
Uncover Your Authentic Self & Transform Your Life
Renowned coach, psychotherapist, and bestselling author of Solemate, Lauren Mackler, teaches you her groundbreaking roadmap to achieve mastery of your life, and a sense of wholeness and well-being on your own or in a relationship. When we’re born, we’re whole, integrated human beings with tremendous potential. We respond to our life conditioning by adopting habitual thought and behavior patterns, many of which erode our innate wholeness. Instead of expecting someone else to complete you, Lauren helps you reclaim your innate wholeness by shedding your self-defeating patterns, overriding your fears, and “living deliberately” to create the life to which you aspire.
Life Keys: 9/24 – The Three Keys to Success
Posted by Lauren - 09/24/09 at 07:09:33 amDo you struggle with setting clear goals, knowing how to bring them to reality, or staying motivated and following through? Tune in to discover why many so people fail to realize their goals, and the three critical keys for achieving the success to which you aspire.
Tune in to Life Keys on Thursday @ 1pm (EST)
www.hayhouseradio.com
Call us toll-free in the US and Canada by dialing 866-254-1579. International callers can dial the country code then 760-918-4300.
Happy to be home alone: DailyMail.com
Posted by Lauren - 09/23/09 at 12:09:33 pmNever one to toe the line, Simon Cowell recently explained why he had separated from Terri Seymour, his girlfriend of eight years.
He ‘liked her so much’, he said; they were ‘incredibly close’. He hadn’t left Terri for ‘some other girl’. For Cowell, the crux of the problem had been those unwritten rules that are part and parcel of commitment. ‘I think just the fact that we were in a relationship, with the rules that are attached to that – or what we think are rules – caused problems,’ he explained. ‘Rules equal boredom. And I don’t like that.’
Cowell has consistently stated that he doesn’t want children – and he’s also ambivalent about playing the ‘partner’. At the end of a full day, he explained, he didn’t like coming home to someone who expected to hear all about it – maybe not a surprising stance for a born bachelor with a punishing work schedule. Now single again, he doesn’t have to.
But could Cowell actually be speaking for many of us – including a sizable bulk of the single women who are generally thought to be desperate, damaged, unlucky or on hold? Are an increasing number of us actually unable – or unwilling – to adapt our lives to fit ‘the rules’?
Lauren Mackler, psychotherapist and author of Solemate, which explores the ‘art of aloneness’, certainly thinks so. ‘The pervasive mindset is that the ultimate goal, the fairy-tale ending, is a melting, a merging of you, your spouse and your home,’ she says. ‘The reality is that more than 30 per cent of households are one-person occupancies, and that figure is growing all the time. More people than ever are choosing to live alone – whether consciously or unconsciously.
‘If marriage was our top priority, we’d all be married,’ she continues. ‘Instead, a considerable number of women are choosing not to go down that path, but living all sorts of other lifestyles – single and celibate, dating, or being in a relationship but maintaining separate homes. For certain women – especially those who’ve been through a marriage and then created an ideal life on their own – a full-on relationship simply carries too much compromise.’
Solemate at Emerson Wellness Center: 10/24/09
Posted by Lauren - 09/23/09 at 11:09:24 amMany people spend years waiting for a soul mate to make them complete. Others settle for unfulfilling relationships out of fear of being alone. Renowned coach, radio host, and bestselling author of “Solemate: Master the Art of Aloneness & Transform Your Life” Lauren Mackler will present her groundbreaking roadmap to help you achieve mastery of your own life, so you can experience a sense of wholeness and well-being on your own or in a relationship. Based upon Lauren’s “Solemate” book, this presentation is about treating yourself well, shedding your self-defeating patterns, and becoming the person you were born to be.
The workshop is designed for women and men who are single or divorced, or seeking greater independence within their partnership.
Click here for more information.
Mastering the Art of Aloneness on Huffington Post
Posted by Lauren - 09/23/09 at 08:09:45 am
More people are living as singles today than ever before. In the United States, there are 95.7 million single adults — a number that represents 43 percent of all U.S. adults. Why? Not only are people marrying later, but given high divorce rates and that women outlive men by an average of seven years, it’s likely that a married adult will again be single at some point in his or her life.
Despite these numbers, attitudes have changed remarkably little. There’s still a mindset that if you’re single, there must be something wrong with you. Many people believe that marriage is the ideal lifestyle and we’re barraged by messages reinforcing this notion. Movies and music tell the same story: Without love, we have nothing. It’s difficult to even imagine a movie that ends with the hero living joyfully alone instead of happily-ever-after with a mate. The classic line in the film, Jerry Maguire–”You complete me” — reinforces what many singles believe: If I could only find my soul mate, I’d be happy.
Opposites attract for the same reason that relationships fall apart. Most relationships are driven by an unconscious need to recreate or compensate for childhood experiences. Take the example of a man who grows up in a family where he’s never allowed to express joy or excitement; he’ll be looking for someone else to bring those expressions into his life. Or a woman who never feels safe or secure on her own… Click here to read more.
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