Trouble Keeping Your New Year’s Resolutions? Uncover Your Self-Sabotaging Tendencies
Posted by Lauren - 01/29/10 at 01:01:55 pmAt start of a new year, many people make resolutions for change. In fact, many of these are the same ones every year! Yours may be to increase your income, expand your social circle or find your dream job. But the foundation for achieving any goal is the ability to move beyond self-sabotaging patterns to create the results you seek.
In my work, I often talk about how the core beliefs and behaviors adopted in childhood affect our adult lives. Although rooted in the unconscious and hidden from most people, our core beliefs drive our everyday behaviors. And while these beliefs and behaviors allowed us to adapt to our families growing up, they often negate our adult lives. So identifying and shedding your limiting beliefs and behaviors is a critical key to success.
To better understand how your own limiting beliefs and behaviors may be sabotaging your New Year’s resolutions, here are three examples of self-defeating behaviors … Click here to read the entire article on the Huffington Post.
Solemate Review by Joan Borysenko!
Posted by Lauren - 01/26/10 at 10:01:47 amSolemate Review by Joan Borysenko!
Author of It’s Not the End of the World: Developing Resilience in Times of Change
“I had the pleasure to be on Lauren Mackler’s Life Keys radio show (every Thursday 1-2pm EST) on HayHouseRadio.com. What a delight Lauren is. Smart, insightful, real, and full of excellent advice. Lauren is the author of the international bestseller, Solemate: Master the Art of Aloneness & Transform Your Life. The book is a real page-turner. Lauren’s life story is riveting . . . from the magic of marrying a handsome young physician and moving overseas to recognizing that she’d lost herself in the needs of another. She came back to the States broke, dispirited, and with two kids to support. Lauren recovered from depression and became a celebrated therapist, author, and coach. She provides warm and wise advice about the core issues that prevent us from being happy and at home in our own skin. She’s the real deal and I think you’ll really enjoy her book.”
How do you have fun?
Posted by Lauren - 01/26/10 at 10:01:20 amHow do you have fun? Post your favorites! I love karaoke (the singer in me still enjoys a good croon) and darts (I’m getting pretty good)! I also love rainy day movie marathons. I watch 2-3 of my favorite movies back to back with my beloved Bichon, Cosette, by my side. Some of my all-time favorites: Defending Your Life…, Hearts & Souls, Mermaids, and Mr. Holland’s Opus. Can’t wait to hear how you have fun!
Cosette
Life Keys – 1/28: Mastering the Art of Forgiveness
Posted by Lauren - 01/25/10 at 09:01:15 am
While anger and revenge may give us a feeling of power, resentment consumes precious life energy that could be used to produce a joyful and fulfilling life. Tune in to hear Lauren talk about the benefits of forgiveness and practical tools for achieving the freedom of forgiving yourself and others.
Tune in to Life Keys on Thursday @ 1pm (EST)
Call us toll-free in the US and Canada by dialing 866-254-1579. International callers can dial the country code then 760-918-4300.
Solemate Review
Posted by Lauren - 01/20/10 at 09:01:10 amI came across this Solemate review and wanted to share with you.
Solemate Review on SOLO dot MOM.
The review is in. My review that is, on the book, Solemate: Master the Art of Aloneness & Transform Your Life by Lauren Mackler.
I have been reading this book sent to me for the purpose of doing a review and wanted to share it with my readers here. Some books I get like this, I don’t recommend and won’t post about them. But this one – I do recommend you read it – especially after divorce. However, others whether single or happily married, can glean from the information about ‘finding yourself’ as well. This book outlines a process for not only finding WHO YOU ARE but becoming the person you were meant to be, the type person you would want be with and experience a sense of wholeness instead of looking for a person out there to ‘complete you.’
You have recently heard me dispel the idea of finding your soul mate. This book helps you cope with the realization that you need to develop your own life vision, your own action plan to get yourself into gear and not rely on someone else (an ideal partner) to make you happy. In other words finding contentment with yourself can make you content with your world around you.
This in no way is to suggest that you don’t need relationships in your life. On the contrary the book outlines the very need we as humans have for other people to be in our lives – our outer support system. Solemate has a whole chapter titled: Building an Inner and Outer Support System.
By becoming a whole person it will help you and I to have healthier relationships with a life partner. Working on ourselves, owning our stuff that we have carried around with us… Click here to read the entire review.
8 Principles of Fun for 2010
Posted by Lauren - 01/19/10 at 03:01:19 pmDuring a recent trip to Japan, I realized I wanted more fun in my life. I am, by nature, a fun-loving person. But I’m so energized by my work that it doesn’t feel much like work. That’s a mixed blessing. The good news is that I love what I do. The bad news is that because I enjoy it, I work a lot, leaving little time for simply having fun.
Synchronicity was at work when an old friend suddenly popped back into my life. Since I had seen Lori, she quit her corporate job to launch Tomgirl Tours, an outdoor adventure company dedicated to helping women “do the unthinkable.” Her motivation was to have more fun in her life and help others do the same. Lori shared a video posted on her blog, The Eight Irresistible Principles of Fun, by Michael Bungay Stanier. I loved the video’s message, and felt compelled to share it with others.
I hope you enjoy these 8 Principles of Fun, and are inspired to bring more fun into your own life in 2010 and beyond!
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Stop hiding who you really are. Although it feels like the path of least resistance, it actually takes more energy to live from your Conditioned Self than to live authentically—the person you were born to be.
Start being intensely selfish. Many people believe that making themselves the key person in their lives is a bad thing. It’s simply good common sense. After all, you’re the only person who’s with you 24/7 until you draw your last breath.
Stop following the rules. While some rules are necessary and good for us, living a life based on others’ rules, needs, and expectations can stifle your self-expression and creativity, and keep a lid on your potential.
Start scaring yourself. People avoid expanding their comfort zones out of fear, missing out on people and experiences that can enrich their lives. Know that fear is a normal reaction to taking risks and learn how to override them. My article, Manage Fear So It Doesn’t Manage You, can help.
Stop taking it all so damn seriously. Our time on earth is short, and as someone once said, “No one gets out of this alive.” Instead of ruminating about how bad things are, bring laughter into your world and focus on what’s good about your self and your life.
Start getting rid of the crap. Being bogged down by possessions you don’t need can be an energy-drain. Many people go into debt because they buy things to fill the voids in their lives. Clear out clutter that distracts you, and you’ll free up energy to create a life you enjoy.
Stop being busy. Being busy and being productive are not necessarily the same. Many people keep busy to avoid taking action on things they’re afraid to pursue. Identify your priorities and allocate your time and energy to achieving the goals to which you aspire.
Start something. Procrastination is a common reaction to feeling overwhelmed or fear of failure. Instead of taking on too much at once and overwhelming yourself, break things down and take one small action step at a time.
© 2010 Lauren Mackler
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7 Signs You’re Headed for Divorce on SheKnows.com
Posted by Lauren - 01/19/10 at 12:01:53 pm
Although being paranoid about your relationship with your husband is probably not a good thing, if the signs are there and you confront them, there’s a chance you might be able to save your marriage before it’s too late. So what are the signs? Read this article on SheKnows.com. They turned to experts to uncover what you should watch out for. These are the signs you might be headed for divorce.
Click here to read the entire article.
Life Keys – 1/21: Collaboration Versus Competition: The Feminine Principle at Work
Posted by Lauren - 01/18/10 at 09:01:00 am
The “feminine principle” has been viewed by ancient traditions as the symbol of birth, transformation, and sustenance, and in more recent times as the energy of collaboration and nurturance. Join Lauren as she talks about the feminine principle as the new paradigm in our personal lives, relationships, and at work. Tune in to Life Keys on Thursday @ 1pm (EST)
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Call us toll-free in the US and Canada by dialing 866-254-1579. International callers can dial the country code then 760-918-4300.
Solemate Workshop at Kripalu: 4/18-21, 2010
Posted by Lauren - 01/15/10 at 10:01:32 amMany people spend years waiting for a “soul mate” to complete them. Others settle for unfulfilling relationships out of fear of being alone. Solemate is about freeing yourself from the shackles of your life conditioning and reclaiming your innate wholeness. It’s a groundbreaking roadmap to achieve mastery of your life, and experience joy on your own or in a relationship. Based upon Lauren’s Solemate book, it’s about shedding old, self-defeating patterns, and becoming the person you were born to be. The workshop is for people who are single or divorced, or seeking greater independence within their partnership.
April 18-21, 2010
Kripalu
Lenox, MA
866.200.5203
Solemate 12 Session Teleseminar
Posted by Lauren - 01/12/10 at 11:01:24 amWatch Lauren talk about bringing your goals to fruition!
Solemate: Master the Art of Aloneness & Transform Your Life
12-Session Teleseminar
January 14 – December 9, 2010
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