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What would you do if you knew you could not fail? Fear is one of biggest barriers to creating a life aligned with who you are and the vision to which you aspire. Renowned coach, radio host, and bestselling author of Solemate: Master the Art of Aloneness & Transform Your Life Lauren Mackler will help you uncover the roots of the fears that keep you stuck, and practical tools for moving through your fears to bring your personal and professional goals to reality.
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Is it wise to fall in love with someone struggling to love himself: Lauren’s interview in London’s Daily MailPosted by Lauren - 03/30/10 at 09:03:18 am
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Even the most cynical would wish David Walliams and his fiancée, Dutch model Lara Stone, the best. On the surface, they seem set for a fairy-tale finish. Walliams, 38, first spied Stone, 26, last March at a Chelsea football match. He pursued and wooed her, sending flowers by the house-full. After a whirlwind courtship, he proposed in
January, popping a vintage Tiffany ring into her cheeseburger. A summer wedding is expected. So far, so fairy tale.
But the bigger picture is rather darker. Just a month before meeting Stone, Walliams gave a glimpse into his psyche when he was the castaway on Radio 4’s Desert Island Discs. Under probing from host Kirsty Young, he confessed to extreme ‘self-loathing’ and a ‘pathological fear’ of being alone. ‘I hate it,’ he said. ‘When I’m with my own thoughts, I start to unravel and think really dark thoughts, self-destructive thoughts.’
To avoid this, Walliams, a familiar face on the party circuit, would go out every night, surrounding himself with people. ‘If somebody said to me, “You have to spend a weekend on your own”, I wouldn’t be able to hack it,’ he admitted. Stranded on that make-believe desert island, he chose as his ‘luxury’ a gun to shoot himself with rather than be lonely.
‘I wouldn’t be able to hack a weekend on my own,’ says Walliams. ‘I’d hate it. I’d start to unravel’
Many of us are uncomfortable on our own. One American survey found that a quarter of all adults experience painful loneliness at least every few weeks. Lauren Mackler, life coach and author of international bestseller Solemate: Master the Art of Aloneness and Transform Your Life, says, ‘We fear it. The very word “alone” is seen as sad and negative. It starts in childhood, as parents organise play dates for their toddlers and after-school activities for their children. If a child is happily occupied on his own, parents worry. At school, we want to be part of the crowd. As adults, we measure people by their partners and friends. We’re constantly told to work on our relationships with others – but never on our relationship with ourselves.’
However, Walliams’s own fear of being alone sounds rather more extreme – he himself describes it as ‘pathological’. Now a recognised medical condition known as ‘monophobia’ or ‘isolophobia’, it can have sufferers clinging to their partners when they leave for work, and obsessively needing company… Click here to read more.
Leashes and Lovers
By Sheryl Matthys
Leashes and Lovers, What Your Dog Can Teach You About Love, Life, and Happiness, reveals how to create the life you want and improve your relationships. The Dog Expert®, Sheryl Matthys, shares stories with non-famous and famous dog lovers like Cesar Millan, Howard Stern, and Rachel Ray. And if you purchase Leashes and Lovers on Wednesday, MARCH 31, you’ll also get F*R*E*E bonus gifts and be eligible for prizes worth thousands. Not only will you get an amazing book and bonus gifts, but you’ll be supporting a great cause. On MARCH 31, each order supports the American Humane Association!
Mastering the art of aloneness—becoming whole and happy on your own—is an important prerequisite to sharing a healthy and fulfilling relationship or marriage. Tune in to hear Lauren and guest Arielle Ford talk about how to move beyond co-dependence to create a loving, conscious, and interdependent partnership.
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Read this article on QualityHealth.com.
How to Build a Better Date: For Singles and Couples
By Rosemary Black
The time is set, the meeting place arranged. The mirror confirms that your hair and outfit look great. Then what’s with the butterflies in your stomach? The perfect date is well within your grasp, experts say, whether you’re single or married. You just need to keep a few pointers in mind.
If this is your first date, be aware that the guy or girl in question will draw certain conclusions about you within the first 30 seconds of meeting. “And a lot of this first impression will be based on appearance,” says Lauren Mackler, coach, speaker and author of Solemate: Master the Art of Aloneness & Transform Your Life. “If you want to be perceived as successful, make an effort to dress that way.”
Don’t give away too much information about yourself too quickly. “Be honest, but be mindful and discerning about what is right and not right to share,” Mackler advises. “Topics that are not acceptable on a first or second date include your financial situation as well as issues of low self-esteem that you are working on through therapy.”
Keep in mind that, like it or not, you’re sending certain messages to your date just by your actions. Say you’re a guy and the check comes at the end of a restaurant dinner. You pick it up and start to pay, and your date doesn’t even offer to split it. This is important information, Mackler says, to file away in your mind. “And if the guy picks up the tab and asks if you want to split it, just keep this in mind, too,” Mackler says.
During the evening, notice small things, such as how much time your date is spending talking about himself or herself. Ask questions of your date, and don’t just talk about yourself. Expect the other person to do the same. “If your date does not reciprocate by asking you questions about yourself, that is a red flag,” … Click here to read the entire article.
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6 Reasons Why You Can’t Leave a Loser
by Norine Dworkin-McDaniel
I was in college when an older man asked me out. We went to a concert (nice), then back to his place (predictable). By morning, I knew the relationship was a non-starter.
But his attention was flattering and I was between boyfriends. Before I knew it, my one-night stand turned into a year-long relationship. He even talked of marriage.
Right then, I should have cut and run. But I’d grown used to his loud, obnoxious behavior. And at least I had a date on Saturday nights.
I didn’t get my complacent butt out of there until he raised his hand to smack me during a disagreement. Though his hand never connected, that near-slap was just the push I needed.
Any sign of abuse (physical or emotional) is an obvious relationship deal-breaker. And the same goes for addictions of any stripe (drugs, alcohol, sex, gambling). But even without such problems, we often find ourselves spinning our wheels in dead-end relationships.
According to relationship experts, here are the 6 most common reasons we stay with men we’re just not that into:
1. My family made me do it.
Blaming your issues on Mom, Dad, your siblings or the dog can get a little tired. But persistently picking Mr. Wrong does have a lot to do with your upbringing, therapists say.
“What happens in the family shapes how we see ourselves in the world, our core beliefs and our behaviors,” says life/relationship coach Lauren Mackler, author of Solemate: Master the Art of Aloneness and Transform Your Life (Hay House). “Then we take those behavior patterns into adulthood… Click here to read the entire article.
Nothing Short of Joy
By Julie B. GenoveseBeing born a dwarf, complete with degenerative arthritis, was not the curse Julie Genovese originally thought—it was magic! As a young girl, she considered herself a freak who was unworthy of a rich, full life. There were desperate times of humiliation, medical studies, naked photos for medical texts, arthritis, and multiple operations that included two brain surgeries. In this candid and entertaining memoir, Julie shares her incredible journey from ‘victimhood’ to empowerment. Purchase one copy of Nothing Short of Joy, TUESDAY, MARCH 23rd and receive a F*R*E*E windfall of wisdom: 100′s of dollars in bonuses from top inspirational leaders and self-help experts.
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Do you ever wonder if, how, and why you attract the people, situations, and experiences that comprise your life? Tune in to hear Lauren and guest Sandra Anne Taylor demystify the laws of attraction, and how to harness their power to generate greater joy and success in your life.
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Many people spend years waiting for a soul mate to make them complete. Others settle for unfulfilling relationships out of fear of being alone. Renowned coach, radio host, and bestselling author of “Solemate: Master the Art of Aloneness & Transform Your Life” Lauren Mackler will present her groundbreaking roadmap to help you achieve mastery of your own life, so you can experience a sense of wholeness and well-being on your own or in a relationship. Based upon Lauren’s “Solemate” book, this presentation is about treating yourself well, shedding your self-defeating patterns, and becoming the person you were born to be.