We all want to feel good about ourselves, but we don’t always treat ourselves very well. In this podcast, Lauren talks about reclaiming your self-esteem as a critical key to activating your full potential. To listen, click on the link below.
Many people invest countless dollars in therapy, coaching, or other modalities that fail to produce lasting results. In this riveting episode, Lauren talks about the three most effective modalities for helping people break free of self-defeating patterns, and achieving change in their personal lives, relationships, and careers.
Tune in to the Life Keys radio show every Tuesday at 3pm ET, 12pm PT at Hay House Radio through August 31, 2010. Have a question? Call me toll-free during the live show in the US and Canada at 866-254-1579. International callers can dial the country code then 760-918-4300.
Lauren shares practical tools and strategies for overriding common barriers to success. To listen, click on link below.
Lauren is interviewed by Relationship RX host, Lisa Hayes. In this enlightening interview, Lauren lifts the social stigma of aloneness and provides a groundbreaking roadmap for gaining mastery of your life, so you can achieve a sense of wholeness and well-being on your own or in a relationship. Mastering the art of aloneness is not about being alone. It’s about treating yourself well, shedding your self-defeating patterns, and becoming the person you were born to be. Rather than depend on someone else to complete you, Mackler suggests “becoming the partner you seek”—your own cherished solemate.
Feeling stuck or unable to accomplish your goals? Change can be difficult, and many people lose motivation to achieve their goals. When you slip up, just think of it as course-correcting. Welcome the challenge—it means that you’re taking charge of your life! Don’t judge yourself. Instead, treat yourself with compassion, and determine what’s needed to get back on course.
Below are some pitfalls people encounter and practical strategies to override them.
Prioritize and focus. If you feel overwhelmed, you may be trying to achieve too much at once. Step back and look at your goals. If you’re doing too much, it’s time to reprioritize. Maybe you need to work on two goals instead of three. Or maybe one of your goals requires a lot of steps, so it’s taking up all your energy. Identify the goals that are most important to you. If you need to, just focus on one goal at a time and don’t move on to the next one until the first one is complete.
Encourage yourself. People become discouraged when they listen to their “inner critic”—the voice that says: “You’ll never make it.” “It’s hopeless.” “This is too hard.” Whatever that voice is saying, articulate a response, drawing from the part of you that feels strong and confident. Be your own cheerleader. Review your accomplishments; remind yourself of what you’re capable of doing and being. Instead of focusing on the old voice that drags you down, actively support and listen to the part that believes you can achieve what you want.
Solicit support from others. You’re more likely to slip up when you’re trying to accomplish your goals by yourself. It may be that you don’t have an outer support system in place to help you maintain focus and provide the external encouragement everyone needs. Outer supports might include a trusted friend, a coach or therapist, or a support group. Avoid situations that trigger sabotaging patterns. For example, if you eat junk food when you’re feeling lonely, scheduling activities with others will help you bypass the old trigger and remain on-course.
Practice good self-care. Taking good care of yourself is key to achieving your goals. A lack of energy typically relates to a failure to sustain your inner support system, which provides the physical, emotional, and mental energy needed to achieve your goals. If you’re eating poorly, neglecting your health, or living a high-stress lifestyle, you’re depleting your inner resources. That will make it difficult to maintain the energy you need to participate fully and actively in your life.
Love and respect yourself. If you don’t have a loving relationship with yourself, it’s hard to sustain the motivation to take action and make good choices for yourself. Loving yourself compels you to make lifestyle choices that make you feel good and generate the results you want. If you feel unmotivated, revisit your relationship with yourself and make a conscious effort to treat yourself with respect, love, and compassion—just like you would treat a close and cherished friend.
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Lauren Mackler is a coach and host of the Life Keys radio show on Hay House Radio. She’s the author of the international bestseller, Solemate: Master the Art of Aloneness & Transform Your Life. www.laurenmackler.com
The demands on our time and energy are at an all-time high. One of the greatest barriers to life balance is finding time to organize and maintain an effective life management system. Lauren shares concrete strategies to reduce stress, and achieve a greater sense of balance, confidence, and accomplishment.
Tune in to the Life Keys radio show every Tuesday at 3pm ET, 12pm PT at Hay House Radio. Have a question? Call me toll-free during the live show in the US and Canada at 866-254-1579. International callers can dial the country code then 760-918-4300.
Many people spend years waiting for a soul mate to make them complete. Others settle for unfulfilling relationships out of fear of being alone. Renowned coach, radio host, and bestselling author of “Solemate: Master the Art of Aloneness & Transform Your Life” Lauren Mackler will present her groundbreaking roadmap to help you achieve mastery of your own life, so you can experience a sense of wholeness and well-being on your own or in a relationship. Based upon Lauren’s “Solemate” book, this presentation is about treating yourself well, shedding your self-defeating patterns, and becoming the person you were born to be.