Lauren Mackler’s Interview with Doug Tribou for NPR
LM: Success is subjective so it’s defined and experienced by people in different ways. It might be a certain amount of money or prestige, a large circle of friends, or a fulfilling personal life or career. I define success as being able to activate your strengths to produce the results you want to achieve.
NPR: What kind of advice would you give to someone near the top of his or her profession, but who can’t quite achieve that ultimate goal?
LM: Over the 20 some years I’ve spent coaching many types of clients, I’ve found that the two biggest barriers that hold people back are what I call their core limiting beliefs and habitual behaviors. When we’re born, we’re whole, integrated human beings with tremendous potential. In response to our life conditioning, we adopt thought and behavior patterns that often diminish our strengths and potential as adults.
For example, someone may be a gifted athlete, but a life-long, ingrained belief that he’s never quite good enough can keep him from reaching the top of his game. He’ll be distracted by a fear of failing, which then creates stress and makes it difficult to stay focused on his goals. To override those barriers, you have to become aware of how you think and behave on autopilot, and start aligning your thoughts and behaviors with the results you’re trying to achieve.
NPR: How do repeated “close-calls” with success impact the people falling short time and again?
LM: It depends on the type of person. The people who ultimately reach their goals are those who don’t give up. Instead of wallowing in self-pity or frustration—or throwing in the towel altogether—they explore what didn’t work and course-correct. It is human nature to feel upset or frustrated when we fall short, but the path to success more often than not involves making mistakes along the way and learning from them. If someone feels like they’ve failed, I encourage them to reframe the situation as an opportunity to learn about what doesn’t produce the outcome they want. Instead of giving up, brainstorm what might be a more effective approach and then implement the new strategy. To view Lauren’s “Critical Factors of Success” video, click here.
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Lauren Mackler is a world-renowned coach, host of the LIFE KEYS radio show, and author of the international bestseller, Solemate: Master the Art of Aloneness & Transform Your Life. www.laurenmackler.com
I was interviewed 3/29/11 on the Dr. Molly Barrow Radio Show about how to live deliberately and become the person you were born to be.
To hear or download the episode, click here.
Are you or someone you know being bullied?
President Obama recently held a White House conference to discuss ways to prevent bullying in school. But bullying is a problem not just among young people. Workplace bullying can involve threats, baseless criticism, discrimination and favoring some employees unfairly over others. Life and executive coach, bestselling author, and CNN commentator, Lauren Mackler, offers tips for how to respond to a bully on Voice of America. To listen, click here.
Robert Sherman of Obama’s National Finance Committee and President-Elect Obama’s Transition Team recently spent an enlightening hour with me on my LIFE KEYS radio show about why Obama fell from superstar to scapegoat, and how the Democrats can salvage Obama’s presidency. To listen, click here.
Lauren is interviewed by Nan Russell on Web Talk Radio about how your relationship with yourself affects your professional life. To listen, click below.
Lauren is interviewed by Relationship RX host, Lisa Hayes. In this enlightening interview, Lauren lifts the social stigma of aloneness and provides a groundbreaking roadmap for gaining mastery of your life, so you can achieve a sense of wholeness and well-being on your own or in a relationship. Mastering the art of aloneness is not about being alone. It’s about treating yourself well, shedding your self-defeating patterns, and becoming the person you were born to be. Rather than depend on someone else to complete you, Mackler suggests “becoming the partner you seek”—your own cherished solemate.
Lauren is interviewed by Inside Out host, David Brown. In this enlightening interview, Lauren lifts the social stigma of aloneness and provides a groundbreaking roadmap for gaining mastery of your life, so you can achieve a sense of wholeness and well-being on your own or in a relationship. Mastering the art of aloneness is not about being alone. It’s about treating yourself well, shedding your self-defeating patterns, and becoming the person you were born to be. Rather than depend on someone else to complete you, Mackler suggests “becoming the partner you seek”—your own cherished solemate.
Listen to my interview with Janet Powers on Diva Tool Box.
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“Across the Kitchen Table with Janet Powers” shares practical advice women need to succeed. She highlight guests from across the globe who inspire, educate and empower people with the information they need to succeed!
More people are living single lives than ever before. In the US today, there are 95.7 million singles, representing nearly half of all adults. Despite these numbers, attitudes have changed remarkably little. There’s still a mid-set that if you’re single there must be something wrong with you, and most people believe that marriage is the ideal lifestyle. On this episode, bestselling author of Solemate: Master the Art of Aloneness & Transform Your Life, Lauren Mackler, is interviewed by host Brett Blumenthal about the stigma of aloneness and Lauren’s ground-breaking, step-by-step road map for gaining mastery of your own life, so you can achieve a sense of wholeness and well-being on your own or in a relationship. To listen to the one-hour interview, just click on the title link above.
April 14th, 2010 @11:00 am EST, 8:00 am PSTDavid Matthew Brown is an Agape licensed spiritual practitioner and is currently running for peace. He is running in the Los Angeles marathon March 21, 2010, as the point man for the Peace Alliance’s campaign for a department of peace in America. David Matthew Brown has hosted the radio program Inside Out since 2007 and has interviewed more than 230 spiritual leaders with one question in mind: What does it mean to live from the inside out? He also facilitates meditation, stillness classes, playfulness workshops, mindfulness workshops, and does public speaking on living from within-out. He is a published writer and award-winning poet.